photo credit: Richard Winchell
Newsflash: NOT a morning person. Repeat: Do not call here before 8:30 unless you are prepared to deal with the less-than-pleasant person on the other end of the line.
Oh sure, I’ve been up. For hours. But that doesn’t mean I’m happy about it.
This sort of poor-early-morning temperament was fine way back in the San Francisco and Seattle days, when I was the only one at home and awake at that hour. (My sickeningly early-bird husband has always flown the coop long before I have, even in those days when my alarm screeched at 5:45AM. What on earth does he do so early? Yuck.) But now, I am joined by two of my boys, both of whom are off to school before the sun peeks over the horizon. Geesh.
Getting kids out the door, on time, and with needed materials, is a difficult proposition for most moms I know. Accomplishing those same things with an I’d-MUCH-rather-be-sleeping mindset is, well, almost impossible. So how do we do it? How do my kids manage to arrive at school with two shoes, homework, lunch, and a coat? Here’s what works for us:
- Start the night before: lunch. This idea sounds so logical, doesn’t it? And yet, by the time we’ve finished all of the evening activities, eaten dinner, cleaned the kitchen and tucked the kids into bed, I barely have time to take care of my existing “to do” list, much less start on tomorrow’s. So, this one little step? It took me awhile to embrace. But now I do. I embrace it and recommend it wholeheartedly. If you’re like me, and your brain is in slow-motion in the morning, it’s likely that you’re like me in the evening as well: your brain is ticking and engaged. It’s ready to go. As such, packing a child’s lunch in the evening will take you half the time it does in the morning. That means you won’t have to remind yourself to get out a knife to spread peanut butter or stop to think about where you keep the goldfish. Beautiful.
- Start the night before: papers. One thing that makes me absolutely, stark-raving mad is scrambling to find books, homework, and “sign-and-return this” papers as the kids are rushing out the door. Honestly, if you thought it was bad when I was just tired, try adding this dilemma to the mix. Not pretty. So before the kid head upstairs to brush their teeth at night, they need to locate ALL of the necessary items for school the next day and put them in their backpacks. Ahhh, less rushing, no lunatic mother–a wise choice.
- Start the night before: outerwear. If you live way down south, you probably don’t need to worry about this one. But for those of us whose kids need rain gear or snow gear, you can save yourself an incredible amount of frustration by lining the gear up the night before. The only thing worse than not being able to find the library book that MUST be returned today, is only having one boot to stomp through the snow.
- Don’t worry about the outfit. My boys learned to dress themselves early on. By the time they hit pre-school, they were thrilled to choose their clothing for the day. Have we had plaid shorts with striped shirts? You bet we have. How about khaki shorts, black socks, and loafers? Yep, that’s us. Mind you, I give a little guidance on school picture day. Other than that, they are very proud to dress themselves, and they’re quick about it, too.
- Limit breakfast choices. Breakfast is mandatory around here, because, hey, I can read so I know kids are better off when they start their day with good food in their bellies. Our choices: oatmeal, cereal (the ones I choose to buy), or eggs. Side items: sausage (Bob Evans turkey links are awesome!), toast, &/or bagel. My point isn’t that these should also be the choices at your house. Your choices are your choices – just make sure there aren’t too many, or your kids will never get out of the kitchen & into the school on time.
- Re-evaluate bedtime and alarm time. When it’s time to wake up, some kids do just fine. They roll out of bed, begin getting ready, and are ready to go without much hassle. Others stumble. They dawdle. They grumble and groan. (Hey, I like those kids already!) If your child tends towards the latter, they may need to rise a few minutes earlier to account for their pokiness, and, depending on how much earlier, they may need to have lights out a little earlier, too. Tired and grumpy is no way to start the day. Take it from me.
And you? Do you get your little (and bigger) ones out the door without too much trouble? If so, please share your top tips with the rest of us.
photo credit: country_boy_shane (Shane Gorski)
I don't have kids, but when I lived at home, I tried to get my sisters set up for the next day as best I could. My mom worked nights, and my dad lived out of state. They had to finish their homework and eat dinner before they could go outside and play. They had to be back home by nightfall, and into the shower by 8pm. I'd help them get their stuff ready, but I made it clear that it was their responsibility to get their school things ready. Their clothes were already laid out from the afternoon before. My dad would call every night to wish them good night, and by 9pm they HAD to be in bed even if they weren't sleepy.
It helps getting things ready at nighttime- and it's better when they do it themselves because they have to use their heads a bit.
Another thing about packing lunch the night before is that you can use dinner leftovers — just get them ready right when you are cleaning up after dinner. Of course, maybe if you have teen/tween boys you never HAVE leftovers.